Yesterday marked Year Two since my wife, Susan, died from multiple myeloma. I’m quite pleased with my grieving process which includes: talking A LOT to Susan, repurposing her wardrobe, taking my sweet time clearing out her stuff I don’t want, crying when it hits, and reveling in my solitude.
During the past 730 days, I’d been shocked by how uncomfortable many people are with my grieving process. Of course, I’m aware that they’re probably uncomfortable with Death, change, and their own emotions; it’s not necessarily personal. Anyway, here are some Dos and Don’ts for anyone stepping into my grieving space.
(Oh, by the way, no one EVER asks me directly “How’s your grieving going?” It’s always “How are you doing?” “How was your holiday?”)
Feel this SO hard — people need this kind of guidance, too!
“So are you dating yet” — ARE YOU SERIOUS? I think I want to come up with a list of 10 really sarcastic replies to that. Why do people act like life and death is a game show?
Anyway, love your “brochure” — will hand it around!